This post is long overdue...
The current series being shared at my church is on "Lost Virtues" and the first in the series was Honour. Check out the podcasts at (a)dore Victoria. This prompted me to honour a friend who has and continues to impact my life with her strength and determination (Read "Brought to you by the letter J"
Since the message, and Jo's overwhelming response to my post I have done a lot of thinking. The message shared by Andy Moore needs to be spread like wildfire. Shifting virtues could very well be held responsible for the various negative trends occurring in the behaviour of young adults, youth and children in today's age.
Daily I face the false sense of entitlement. I work in the legal department of a collection agency. No I'm not the bad guy. I'm just the one using extreme measures to force you to honour your financial commitment to whom you received goods or services from. Yes I realize that some people hit hard times and are unable to pay as they intend but honestly, is it honourable to then simply try to hide from the situation? Credit counselors first advise to make contact with creditors and try to work out a deal when unexpected hard times hit.
Another part of my life that lacked honour was in my marriages. Yes, it's plural. I've been married twice. First marriage ended when my then husband ran out without so much as an explanation. It was nine years later through Facebook that I was told of rumours that I was having an affair with my personal trainer. I'm not sure which hurt more, the thought that my ex thought I could dishonour him so severely by breaking my wedding vows or that he dishonoured me by not talking to me about the rumours first.
My second marriage truly tested my ability to honour my marriage vows. In the end my then husband's extreme lack of honour was the root of the marriage breakdown. His behaviour has been categorized by counselors as "abusive" however I was never physically harmed however I am still recovering from the mental and emotional damage that was done by the horrible words spoken.
Now I realize that honouring someone is not always easy but it is highly beneficial. While indulging in Tara Banks talk show one day she shared how Demi Moore retaliates negative comments on her Twitter stream by sending that tweep back an overly positive message. VERY difficult but highly rewarding action.
Since hearing Andy's message I have tried to be more conscious about honouring those I love in my life and attempting to curb my unconscious ability to dishonour people in hopes that I can stop such a negative destructive behaviour. I hope those that read this can do the same.
My question to you is: Who could you honour today?
My question to you is: Who could you honour today?
